Author: Glenda Lane

Are you having a difficult time being in your body and feeling your feelings?

I completely understand because that was me too.

I remember being in acupuncture class listening to classmates comment on how they could feel the energy flowing along the channels between the needles.

I’m thinking to myself “I don’t feel a fricking thing!”

I didn’t know at the time but I was very disconnected from my body.

I had learned to be in my head and not be in my body. I subconsciously didn’t want to be in my body and feel the pain from a low back disc injury in my early 20’s.

I was also known for being “the rock” that people could rely on for support. Feeling my feelings didn’t fit in that picture.

So I get it.

And…I am now VERY in tune with my body and my emotions and help guide others to connect with theirs.

I’ll also be very honest and say that some days are more difficult than others to feel my emotions depending on what’s happening in my world and what state I’m in.

I had a session with a client last week who had trouble accessing her emotions. We took an indirect root, honouring where she was at and boom…the emotion revealed itself.

Why is it important to be in our bodies and feel our emotions?

Emotions that have not been fully felt and expressed stay in your body causing symptoms, dysfunction and even disease.

They are also how our souls speaks to us and energetically can create stuck places/blockages when not allowed to move through us.

Some emotions have been there since childhood when we suppressed how we were feeling to try and stay safe and loved.

Emotions are the doorway, the entry point for healing and transformation, letting us know that something is out of alignment.

So ya, they are kinda important.

So please know that you absolutely can access your emotions even if your currently having difficulty.

There absolutely is a way and I’d be honoured to be your guide.

Email me and let’s connect or head over to my scheduling calendar and book a complimentary clarity call with me.

How is accessing and being with your emotions going for you?

Is this done yet? When is this going to be over? Yep. I hear ya!

It has been quite a shift we’ve been going through and I can’t believe it has been 6 weeks since I stopped working at the physio clinic and the kids stopped going to school.

I totally get that it feels like a long haul.

And…there has been so much good that has also come of this time for the world and for me personally.

I say this while also being sensitive and respectful of those who have lost loved ones during this time. I know what it is like to lose someone that you love dearly so my heart is with those who are going through that experience now.

I thought I would share what I have realized as I have had time to turn inward and become aware of patterns that I was unconscious of.

The first realization I’ve had is where I have been giving my power away. What I mean by that is feeling victim to a situation that I couldn’t change because I didn’t know how and also not listening to my own intuition and knowing but looking for my answers outside of me instead.

Here is what I have learned from having that awareness. One of the reasons we don’t change something we are not happy about is because we don’t know how. We think that we have to know the how before we can choose to change it.

What I now see really clearly is that that is ass-backwards. The truth is that once we decide, once we choose to change something we don’t like, the how shows up. We must choose first.

In addition, I would also say that once we choose to make a change, it’s so important to ask for help from humans and also cosmic support. We don’t have to figure things out on our own. If we ask and then allow ourselves to receive, it feels so much better.

I was giving my power away to a situation because I couldn’t see how to do things differently. Once I decided that I was no longer willing to keep going in the same way, to choose differently for myself, the situation changed almost immediately. That’s how powerful we are!

I have also come to know just how important it is for me to listen to my intuition and guidance. I was doing it before but this is now at a much deeper level. It is no longer a luxury but a necessity in order for me to live the way I desire. I know that I must do things my way and not according to what others might think, even if it’s weird, even if it ruffles some feathers. It is non-negotiable.

And the last piece I will share is how necessary and mandatory self-care is. Nothing works well without it, not business, not health, not family, not anything. Why? Because everything is energy and we are creating our realities with our vibrational frequency aka how we feel. It is an inside out job.

Being very sensitive energetically, I have realized just how much I need to take care of my mind, body and spirit. I have spent the last week cleansing my beliefs, my emotions, my energy system and my physical body.

I begin every day with my spiritual/energy practice and then move onto moving my body and getting outside. And no, I don’t help my kids with any questions they have about school work until I have taken care of myself first. They now even know not to ask until I am ready. I can then be with them in a state of fullness and it goes waaaaaay better.

The invitation, should you choose to accept it is, have a look at where you may be giving your power away to a situation or person believing that you can’t change it. What if you decide what you want instead and choose to discover a way. Ask for assistance and see what magic unfolds.

Begin listening to your gut more. Be willing to take action on what your gut tells you and see what happens. Make it a fun experiment because we are here to enjoy our lives, aren’t we?

And last but not least, how’s your self care going? I get that it has been a stressful time for many and that comfort foods, alcohol and a whole lotta Netflix or Amazon Prime have been the flavour of the day.

I did it too, except for the alcohol part. Although there was that 1 bottle of Prosecco…

Here’s the thing. I reached for those things thinking they would make me feel good and they didn’t. Sugar and gluten make me feel anxious. And binge watching Netflix always makes me tired. So I decided to choose to feel good instead and make that my flavour of the day. Now I know that is what works for me and it doesn’t float everyone’s boat but find what your truth is. Listen to your gut about what feeds your life force energy and do that. Or not. We get to choose.

I hope you are keeping well and please receive a big virtual hug from me. I believe that we are going to come out of this time better than ever. We are changed for sure and I am excited about what gets to happen next!

Much love,

Glenda

It is quite the time we are currently in. I truly hope that you and your loved ones are safe and healthy.

Anxieties and fears are running high. Some say that this pandemic of fear is actually worse than the virus itself. Whether that is true or not, what isn’t arguable is that fear is being felt a lot in the collective.

Being an energetically sensitive person, I feel the collective a lot so I am quite shocked that I have been feeling as calm as I have. Don’t get me wrong. I’ve had my moments but overall, I have been pretty grounded.

So I thought I would share some of the things that I believe have helped me be in this state of relative peace. I realize we are all different and what works for me might not work for you so take what resonates and leave what doesn’t.

In addition to using my energy tools multiple times throughout the day to stay centred, grounded and connected, there are 3 other factors that have assisted me.

The first one is acceptance. I have accepted that this virus is here and we have to do what’s necessary to prevent the spread. No, acceptance does not mean that I have to like it. I do not like it but I have accepted that this is our current human reality.

The opposite of acceptance is resistance. There is a fight against what is because we don’t like it and it is a form of protection. The problem with resistance is that it acts like a boulder in a river, impeding the flow, causing turbulence and a feeling of stuckness. Resistance takes us out of universal flow and it feels hard. It shows up in my body as tension and it definitely doesn’t feel good.

Judgement is a form of resistance. Judging this experience, other people and ourselves is trying to protect ourselves in some way and it resists what is. Everyone is doing the best that they can right now and judgement just isn’t helpful.

So acceptance instead of resistance and judgement has helped me feel more at ease.

The second factor that has helped a lot is presence, both being in the present moment and presence with myself and others.

My mentor, Jennifer Hough, has described anxiety as worrying about something happening in the future but feeling as if it is happening now. I have taken my focus off of the future and have really been living day to day right now. I am planning a few things but nothing too far off into the future because at this point, even tomorrow is unknown with how fast things are changing.

Presence with myself has involved checking in with myself multiple times throughout the day. It is taking a pause to see how I’m doing. What do I need? To eat, drink more water, move my body, ground, centre, rest?

Being present with yourself allows you to be more present with your loved ones. It allows us to really listen to understand and be fully with another which deepens our connection to each other.

The third factor is one that I have struggled with a fair bit in my life. I didn’t have a religious or spiritual upbringing and it wasn’t until my Mom passed 17 years ago that I began on my spiritual path. So having faith or trust in a Higher Power, be it God, Universe, Source, is something that I have had to work at.

I am finding myself in such a deeply rooted place of faith and trust in the Divine and my own divinity. I trust that we are being taken care of and guided on our way forward. I can’t tell you why this is at this time, and again, I am kind of surprised by it. One thing I have been doing since January is beginning my day with the mantra “I trust myself and I trust life.” I don’t know if this has been the difference but I thought I would share it with you any way.

And if don’t trust or have faith in a Higher Power, I totally get it. I didn’t for years. This is an amazing time to get curious about it and gather your own evidence. Everyone has a cosmic team made up of angels, ascendant masters etc. You don’t have to know who they are or feel their presence. They are there to help you but you must ask for their assistance. I ask my team to show me the way forward, to show me if I am on the right track. And then look for “synchronicities” and “coincidences” and signs to show up. When they do, keep an evidence log of them so that you can build your own faith that you are receiving divine assistance.

In summary, acceptance, presence and faith have really helped me in this time of great unknown and unchartered territory. The unknown is typically uncomfortable and feels scary. What I do know, is that the unknown is where the magic lies and if we lean in instead of trying to protect ourselves from it, some pretty amazing things can happen. If we stop looking for something to hold onto, stop resisting and instead bob with the flow of the river, our way forward will be with more ease.

I wish you a lot of love and grace over the coming weeks. Be gentle with yourself and others as we each find our way, doing the best that we can. The way through is with open hearts, compassion and acceptance for ourselves and others. That is the vaccination for this pandemic of fear. We will move through this together.

Much love to you,

Glenda

Fully choose.

As my mentor, Jennifer Hough, says, there are no mistakes, only redirects.

100% commitment is Heaven. 99% is Hell.

Being 100% committed means that you don’t hum and haw about doing something. You just do it without all the questioning.

That 1% is doubt, constantly second guessing yourself. It’s the voice yipping at you to not get it “wrong”. I feel agitated and frenzied just writing it.

It also acts as a potential escape route if things get tough. That’s a good thing, right?

Nope.

Struggle and suffering is having one foot on either side of the fence.

Choose and then let go of the past and knowing if this is “right” or not.

The magic lies in the not knowing.

Having played the gotta get it right game most of my life, I know this one really well. And well, not being fully in really sucks.

I also know being afraid of choosing and being disappointed, being afraid of being judged or hurt. So I get the hesitation and the procrastination. But in the end, not choosing fully is hurting myself.

Choose with discernment. Listen to your gut. Choose what your heart desires, not the shoulds and have tos.

Be fully in even though all the steps ahead aren’t clear and you may not know the way. The way will reveal itself.

And yes, this something I have to remind myself of often.

Jump and the net will appear.

Scary? You bet.

Worth it? Absolutely.

Much love,

Glenda

Here’s what self-abandonment is for me.

Abandoning myself is when I am abandoning my true nature. It is when I don’t listen to or trust my own knowing, intuition, body, heart.

It is when I make choices motivated by my limiting thoughts and fears instead of making choices that are aligned with what is true for me.

When I perceive being abandoned in my outer world, I look within and am curious about how I am abandoning myself and then choose differently.

Instead of reacting to the perceived abandonment that is showing up in my life and being taken out by it, I see that it is an invitation instead to get quiet, go within and hear what my soul knows and what it is asking from me.

That’s the practice. That’s how I change the pattern.

The abandonment is coming up to leave so I try not to engage with it. I get out of its way and let it leave.

At the root of abandonment is the belief that you are not enough. And when we believe that, we don’t listen to ourselves because the answer must be outside of us. Right?

Nope. Not true.

So abandonment presenting is also an invitation to give myself love and compassion because that little child version of me is believing that she is not enough and is hurting.

Loving ourselves enough to listen to our own knowing is the way.

The answers are there.

Much love,

Glenda

I had the privilege of being interviewed by Andrew Koppejan and Maxi Miciak on their Ignite Physio Podcast about Understanding the Cause of Burnout by sharing my journey and what I learned along the way.

This isn’t just for physiotherapists. We see burnout a fair bit in the healthcare professions but it definitely isn’t limited to that space. I have had coaching clients in burnout who were stay at home moms.

Being a parent, a coach, a teacher, a caregiver to parents and other roles have the same underlying thread of us caring and desiring to be of help.

And it’s also for high achievers who are are overwhelmed and exhausted from doing it all and it is costing their health and wellbeing. There is another way.

Here are some points we touch on:

– My description of the stages of my burnout, and the behaviours I’ve had since youth that were causing it.

– Why being out of touch with my body, habitual beliefs, and living with chronic stress resulted in a dysregulated nervous system, and why giving myself full permission to truly rest was needed to regulate it again.

– How engaging in self-care activities won’t matter if your internal beliefs are still driving the behaviours that create burnout.

– Why taking on responsibility for others‘ well-being depleted my energy and led to burnout.

– Understanding the deeper causes of pain, such as headaches and back-pain caused by stress and anxiety.

– How I have changed how I work with patients and coaching clients.

Click here for the link and it is available on iTunes as well under Ignite Physio EP. 52.
If this resonates with you and you want to discuss it further, I’d be happy to do so. Email me at glenda@glendalane.ca .

And if you are a physiotherapist, I highly recommend checking out Ignite Physio and all the amazing free resources available on their website and subscribing to their podcast on iTunes.

Much love,

Glenda

This past weekend, I turned 50. The big 5-0. A half century.

I’ll admit I got a little caught up in the hype that society puts on turning 50.

My eldest daughter, Sophia, even said “Mom, I want to do even more things together. You know, while you still can.”

Society tells us that it is all downhill from here. Your body will start falling apart if it hasn’t already. It’s quite the belief system.

And then there’s my little one, Julianna, who said “I am sad that you’re turning 50 Mom. I don’t want you to die in 50 years!”

I kinda like her perspective, don’t you?

Here’s the thing. Age is what you believe it to be. To me, it really is just a number. It’s not a reflection of where you are in life. Some people are grandparents at 50 whereas others, like myself, still have kids in elementary school.

Some people have grey hair in their 30s whereas I only have a few at 50.

We get to choose our perspective about age and ageing.

My dad turns 78 this January. He continues to ride his road bike every summer and despite having “slowed down” (his words), he managed to get his 1000 miles in before he had to put his bike away.

Seriously, that is 1000 miles more than I rode!

He is not letting his age define what he can and can’t do.

Years ago, I was at a talk by Gregg Braden. He is a scientist and was fascinated by people who live to be over 100 years old. He travelled the world and interviewed many of them, asking them what they believed was the “secret” to their longevity. They all said that it was the love in their hearts, be it love for their family or love for humanity in general.

The human heart is actually built to last 120 years. Really. Have that be your belief instead of life is downhill after 50 because what you believe, you conceive.

So why do so many people die much earlier? We are buying into society’s perspective and we are dying of broken hearts.

What is breaking our hearts, is not allowing ourselves to be with and feel our emotions. Not opening our hearts for fear of getting hurt. Keeping walls up to protect ourselves.

Emotions are meant to move. They are energies in motion. But we often don’t let ourselves feel them because they are uncomfortable and we judge them and ourselves. We think it isn’t safe to feel.

Or we feel them but keep them from moving through us because we keep holding onto them, making up a story about them, making them mean something that isn’t even true.

The problem is that these emotions stay stuck and stagnant in our bodies and cause dysfunction and disease.

Loving requires an open heart. Giving and receiving requires and open heart. And yes, we may open ourselves up to being hurt but we also open ourselves up to giving and receiving even more love.

I really believe that is what we are here to do and giving/receiving even more love is required for humanity to shift and change. It’s required for humanity to continue to exist.

So whether you are looking at it from a personal perspective about your own health and well being or from a more global perspective about shifting humanity, it is so important that we take down the walls, open our hearts and allow ourselves to feel.

I get that it may not feel safe and you may not know how to do that, especially if you were taught that it is bad to express your emotions. I didn’t know. I didn’t even know that I had walls up. But I’ve learned what to do and now I help others do the same in a safe space with kindness and compassion.

If this resonates with you and you are desiring to open your heart even more, to live a longer and richer life, find someone like myself or someone else who can help you.

It’s important. It is necessary and it will allow you to truly live the rest of your life, however long it may be, instead of trying to survive it.