What does love have to do with longevity?

 

 

This past weekend, I turned 50. The big 5-0. A half century.

I’ll admit I got a little caught up in the hype that society puts on turning 50.

My eldest daughter, Sophia, even said “Mom, I want to do even more things together. You know, while you still can.”

Society tells us that it is all downhill from here. Your body will start falling apart if it hasn’t already. It’s quite the belief system.

And then there’s my little one, Julianna, who said “I am sad that you’re turning 50 Mom. I don’t want you to die in 50 years!”

I kinda like her perspective, don’t you?

Here’s the thing. Age is what you believe it to be. To me, it really is just a number. It’s not a reflection of where you are in life. Some people are grandparents at 50 whereas others, like myself, still have kids in elementary school.

Some people have grey hair in their 30s whereas I only have a few at 50.

We get to choose our perspective about age and ageing.

My dad turns 78 this January. He continues to ride his road bike every summer and despite having “slowed down” (his words), he managed to get his 1000 miles in before he had to put his bike away.

Seriously, that is 1000 miles more than I rode!

He is not letting his age define what he can and can’t do.

Years ago, I was at a talk by Gregg Braden. He is a scientist and was fascinated by people who live to be over 100 years old. He travelled the world and interviewed many of them, asking them what they believed was the “secret” to their longevity. They all said that it was the love in their hearts, be it love for their family or love for humanity in general.

The human heart is actually built to last 120 years. Really. Have that be your belief instead of life is downhill after 50 because what you believe, you conceive.

So why do so many people die much earlier? We are buying into society’s perspective and we are dying of broken hearts.

What is breaking our hearts, is not allowing ourselves to be with and feel our emotions. Not opening our hearts for fear of getting hurt. Keeping walls up to protect ourselves.

Emotions are meant to move. They are energies in motion. But we often don’t let ourselves feel them because they are uncomfortable and we judge them and ourselves. We think it isn’t safe to feel.

Or we feel them but keep them from moving through us because we keep holding onto them, making up a story about them, making them mean something that isn’t even true.

The problem is that these emotions stay stuck and stagnant in our bodies and cause dysfunction and disease.

Loving requires an open heart. Giving and receiving requires and open heart. And yes, we may open ourselves up to being hurt but we also open ourselves up to giving and receiving even more love.

I really believe that is what we are here to do and giving/receiving even more love is required for humanity to shift and change. It’s required for humanity to continue to exist.

So whether you are looking at it from a personal perspective about your own health and well being or from a more global perspective about shifting humanity, it is so important that we take down the walls, open our hearts and allow ourselves to feel.

I get that it may not feel safe and you may not know how to do that, especially if you were taught that it is bad to express your emotions. I didn’t know. I didn’t even know that I had walls up. But I’ve learned what to do and now I help others do the same in a safe space with kindness and compassion.

If this resonates with you and you are desiring to open your heart even more, to live a longer and richer life, find someone like myself or someone else who can help you.

It’s important. It is necessary and it will allow you to truly live the rest of your life, however long it may be, instead of trying to survive it.

Stepping Into Your Greatness

 

When I realized the gift that I am

 

Did you know that there is a reason you are here on this planet?

Often people refer to this as your purpose and then spend so much time in search of that purpose.

I did, for sure.

And then I realized that my purpose and your purpose is to be the gift that we are, to be all of the truth of who we really are.

Then from that place, we get to do some really cool shit.

The crazy thing is that you have always been the gift that you are, you just didn’t realize it.

What the heck am I talking about when I say the gift that you are?

YOU, in your uniqueness, is the gift.

You have a unique Essence, skills and character traits that are like no other.

The gift that you are is different from the gift that I am.

I remember the moment when I realized I was a gift. I was sitting around a table with 13 other souls on retreat with Jennifer Hough and the Wide Awakening.

Everyone around that table saw the gift that I am. It took an immense amount of effort to get me to see it.

Why? Because I didn’t believe that the gift that I was was very special.

I have a huge heart and an immense capacity to love. I feel A LOT which allows me to love the way I do.

I thought everybody loves the way I do because it comes so naturally to me. I didn’t think it was a thing and therefore not very special.

So when I asked “doesn’t everyone love like I do?” the response I received was a resounding “NO!!!!!!”

This literally has changed my life. It has allowed me to relax into my beingness and stop trying to prove that I am enough. I am already the gift.

Just being me is enough. Period. And it’s what I am here to be and so are you.

I know that when shit is going sideways, I am not in my heart or being the love that I am. I am back listening to my Ego instead of my Truth and believing in my limitedness.

Talk about great feedback!

So back to the gift you are.

If you don’t know what your uniqueness is, start by having a look at what comes to you so easily that you don’t even think it is a thing. What do others compliment you on? What could you do all day, every day even if you didn’t get paid for it? What lights you up and feels amazeballs?

Start asking yourself these questions and also ask GUS (God/Universe/Source) to show you the gift that you are.

If you do know the gift that you are, are you being it fully or are you guarding yourself in some way?

I just had the realization this week that I am guarding myself from being all of me. Why? Because being all of me is kinda out there and I know that there are some who are going to think I am some kind of freak.

But I also know that not being that fully is hurting me. It’s literally showing up as pain, tension and dysfunction in my body. It’s blocking my capacity to give and receive. It’s blocking abundance. It’s limiting the magic that is possible. And if Glenda the Good Witch is saying it, it’s got to be true:)

I’m being shown how to be all of my galactic witchy self. I am being shown how to bring the love that I know to be possible in other dimensions through to this 3D one.

I’m being shown, one step at a time.

Are you ready to embrace your greatness? If you don’t, your soul will speak to you through body pain, tension, dysfunction and disease, telling you that you are not in alignment with your Truth.

If you do, It will change your life and allow abundance to flow even more. When you are aligned with the truth of who you are, that’s what happens.

Do you feel like you are meant for more? Listen to that feeling. It’s telling you that you are. And the way is being the gift that you are.

It’s time. The world needs you.

If you’re ready and you want guidance in being your true self, you don’t have to do it alone. Assisting people being their true selves in my jam. It is part of the gift that I am. Contact me at glenda@glendalane.ca and let’s chat.

Much love,

Glenda

Dolphin Wisdom

 

 

Did you know that dolphins are one of the most intelligent beings on the planet?

And they are also highly intuitive and closely in tune with  their instincts.

What are one of the most intelligent and highly intuitive beings experts at?

PLAY

I am freshly back from a retreat in Mexico with my Wings family (The Wide Awakening with Jennifer Hough) and felt drawn to share the dolphin medicine I received on my trip.

There were dolphins close to where we were staying and we were to spend some time with then and see what messages they had for us.

Here’s what they said to me:

“You haven’t forgotten how to play. Connection is play for you. Playing together is more fun.”

Dolphins know how important and necessary play is. It’s not just something you do every now and then or just on the weekends. Their days are infused with play.

For me, I’ve been a studious and serious gal a lot of my life, trying to get things right. So PLAY was a 4 letter word for me. It triggered me and my ego would tell me that I didn’t know how to play, only work hard, which keeps you in survival mode instead of enjoying your life.

And I was definitely in survival mode prior to my trip. My body was giving me all the signs that I was relating to my situation incongruently. I hurt my lower back a week before my trip and then got “sick” on my way to Mexico. I definitely wasn’t in my heart and I definitely wasn’t playing. I had forgotten and allowed my external environment to dictate my feelings and actions.

So the dolphin’s wisdom for me definitely hit home.

My perspective of play was also out of alignment. What I realized while away is what play actually is for me – CONNECTION. It’s connection with humans and with my cosmic friends.

Since I’ve been back home, I have also realized that play isn’t just something I “do”. It is also a frequency that I can infuse into all that I do.

I can infuse play into my work, into my family life, into tending to my home, into conversations with people…

Play is more about how I am feeling. Play raises my vibration, increases my frequency.

Your frequency creates your reality. So if your frequency creates your reality and play increases your frequency, can you see how important it is to infuse play into every day?

I now realize that it is non-negotiable for me. Play is a necessity, not a luxury.

Humour is another part of play for me. It shifts energy very quickly. It lightens everything. No wonder I love to dance like a big cheese ball, hamming it up, being a goof. Dance + humour? C’mon now! That’s the shizzle right there!

So play is not just a doing. It’s also how you are being as you are doing. Play can be involved no matter what you are doing, even in the stuff you don’t like to do.

And the last bit of dolphin advice is about playing together, not by ourselves.

I have been a lone wolf a lot of my life because I believed I had to do everything on my own.

The dolphins and being with such an amazing group of women reminded me that we really are all in this life together and it is way funner to be together, playing and co-creating than it is doing it solo. It’s giving AND receiving.

My invitation to you is to contemplate what play is for you. What makes you feel good? What raises your vibration?

Now go and do/be it every day and watch the magic unf0ld!

And if you are desiring to shift from overwhelm and stress to thriving, book a complimentary thriving breakthrough session with me by clicking here and let’s start infusing more peace and enjoyment into your every day.

Much love,

Glenda

The Old Ways Aren’t Working Anymore

Have you noticed? I sure have. I see it in my life and in the lives of those around me. The old ways aren’t working anymore.

What do I mean by that?

It means that our habitual default ways of relating with the world and each other aren’t working.

The new high frequency energies that are coming to our planet right now are making it very difficult to keep doing the same ol’ same ol’. The old ways can’t tag along for the ride anymore.

If I allow myself to go into stress mode for very long, my body doesn’t just talk to me. She screams at me. She tells me to stop it in no uncertain terms.

And if I try to force or push or make something happen, it doesn’t work out. It feels hard and heavy and is frustrating as shit!

Now I can keep doing that and keep feeling that way OR I can be curious about what a new way is instead, one that is in more flow and alignment.

I am disengaging from discussions where I’m not being understood instead of trying to prove my point or get someone to get me. It is wasted energy to do that when there isn’t an opening for it to land. And I am doing it with love and compassion for all involved instead of judgement. The old way doesn’t work anymore.

Even how I am relating with people is shifting. I am being asked to be in my heart even more and do what love would do even more.

So my invitation for you is have a look at what isn’t working in your life? What habits, relationships, and perspectives aren’t serving you and are ready to shift?

And are you willing to be curious about what the new way is instead of trying to figure it out? For me, when I get curious without attachment to an outcome, the new way reveals itself to me in perfect divine timing. Just sayin’.

Much love,

Glenda

Harnessing the Power of Love

Photo by Kelsey Kimmel

It hasn’t been an easy month in the Lane household. My hubby, Tom, injured his back 5 weeks ago and has been in a lot of pain that has prevented him from carrying out functions of daily living, never mind not being able to work. It has been hard to see him in pain physically, emotionally and spiritually.

We’ve been feeling all the feels – sadness, anger, fear, disappointment, frustration but they all circle around to love and compassion.

As I sat on the end of my bed this morning hugging our girls, I felt such love and gratitude for the amazing beings they are and that I get to be their mom.

They have kept me laughing throughout it all and are my inspiration for continuing to remain curious instead of having to know how this is all going to play out.

I know I’m not alone right now in living with big challenges that have cropped up. In speaking with my mentor, Jennifer Hough, she reminded me that the speed of consciousness right now is requiring us to come more and more into alignment, stop carrying others and really take a look at how we are living. What isn’t in alignment is coming up to leave, is asking for changes to be made as we are no longer going to be able to take incongruence along for the ride.

And the more we resist making changes, the bumpier the ride and the more suffering we are going to feel.

I am seeing it all around me – people I know having major challenges; A woman’s husband going to jail and her not knowing how she is going to pay her mortgage despite working 6.5 days per week, people losing their homes to fires, people having loved ones suffer significant injuries in accidents.

It doesn’t minimize my current experience but it does give me perspective and I see what is being asked of us.

We are being asked to harness the strength inside of us, to take our power back and not believe we are victims to life. Life is happening for us and not to us, even if we can’t see it.

The other option is to feel helpless and hopeless and keep asking “why is this happening to me?”. It’s a choice and it is also how we give our power away. It keeps us stuck in the problem instead of moving energy on it.

Now don’t get me wrong, I had moments of asking that question and feeling that way. You bet I did. But I didn’t stay in them because I saw very quickly that it was getting me nowhere.

So I felt those feels, let them move through me and then came to a place of calm. I asked “Now what? What is there for me to do?”

What there was for me to do was to take care of my husband and my girls, take care of myself, ask for and receive help from my cosmic helpers and my human friends.

I have asked to be shown my way through this all and I’ve been listening. What has presented is me renewing my physical therapy licence and doing some coverage this summer. What has presented is working on my coaching business and creating offerings that have been asked for for some time now.

I have been getting on my yoga mat every morning and walking in the ravine when I can. I have been connecting with friends because my pattern is to turtle and be a lone wolf when things get tough.

And I’ve not only been listening to my intuition but acting on it. The past few days have really shown me how important it is to do that.

Above it all, I know that we are being taken care of and that I am not given what I can’t handle. I have the strength to do what is needed, whether I want to or not. We all do.

Flow isn’t about life being all unicorns and rainbows. Flow is about moving in the direction that life is guiding you, moving with the universe.

A lot of the time, it isn’t to my ego’s liking and preferences. So it’s not about everything being easy and happy. Of course there are moments when it is.

The totality of being in flow encompasses how you navigate all of what life is bringing to you. It is accepting what comes your way instead of resisting it and then asking “Now what? What is there for me to do? What can I do?”

It is being in co-creation with the universe, each taking reciprocal dance steps one at a time instead of trying to make things happen all on your own and needing to know the 10 steps ahead.

What has helped me the most and kept me in universal flow?

Love.

When I feel myself going into control mode or worrying, I say to myself “Come back to your heart”. When I feel frustrated and begin asking “why?” again, I come back to my heart.

Love is always the answer. It is the way.

I often ask my higher levels to help me expand my capacity to receive. This experience has cracked my heart open even more which allows me to both give and receive in a greater way.

It has allowed me to love more of me and at a deeper level than ever before. I am accepting and embracing more of the parts of me that I deemed not ok and not safe to be as a child.

As far as strength goes, love is the most powerful energy there is. As long as love leads the way, fear can’t take hold.

So my learnings over the past month have been about being in my heart even more, listening to my intuition even more, taking care of myself even more and owning my power and strength even more to move through whatever comes my way.

It has been weeks of not knowing how this is all for me and now I finally know why.

Much love,

Glenda

How are flow and values related?


Photos by Janelle Ivey

My wedding day truly was one of the happiest days of my life! There were many reasons why but one of them is that Tom and I were in a state of flow.

Everything leading up to the wedding, came together seamlessly without worry or stress. The first store I went to, I found my wedding dress. I bought my flowers from the first florist I met and we had our reception at the only place we looked at. And I loved them all!

I had people surrounding me whom I loved and loved me. I couldn’t stop smiling on our wedding day. The emphasis was on connection and fun, not on any obligations or “shoulds”.

Flow occurs when you are in alignment with your values, what is true for you and I believe that is why our wedding was so flowy (is that a word?).

Tom and I stayed true to what was important to us and let go of what was not, even if it ruffled some feathers or wasn’t according to expectations of others.

I love these pictures because they exemplify what is important to us and what is not.

I bought my shoes for $20 at Payless Shoes. I can hear some of you gasping but here’s the thing. Shoes don’t mean a lot to me. They never have.

Maybe it’s because growing up, my shoes consisted of soccer cleats, track shoes, running shoes, flip flops and ballet shoes. Who knows? But I would have rather spent the money on a great meal or a visit to the thermal baths on our honeymoon in Italy instead of on shoes that I likely wouldn’t wear much. So it wasn’t that I was being cheap. I just didn’t see the point in splurging for shoes that don’t have value for me.

Tom wore cycling socks on our wedding day. It was aligned with a sport that we both love and that he is truly passionate about. It is something we value in our lives so bringing it into our wedding day in the form of socks was fun and truly aligned.

About a month ago, I was in a low and crunchy state, definitely not in flow. When I had a look at what I was thinking, feeling and doing, guess what? None of it was aligned with what is truly important to me and what I know to be true for me. No wonder I was experiencing so much resistance!!!! Kind of the opposite of flow.

So now when I am not in flow, one of my go to questions is “Am I in alignment with my values, with what is important to me and what I know to be true?”. If the answer is “no”, then I re-connect with my values and make the changes that are necessary.

Just a little something to ponder if your days aren’t feeling very flowy:)

Much love,

Glenda

Are you getting half-assed rest?

I did a FB live on this topic this week and wanted to share it with you because I think it is a topic that is quite common.

A few years back, I had the realization that I wasn’t receiving the rest that I could be getting. It wasn’t about how much rest I was getting. It was about how I was resting.

When I had adrenal fatigue, I knew logically that getting rest was imperative. I was sleeping 12 hours a night, having naps during the day and I was still tired. I wasn’t resting in the way that I needed to.

One of the reasons I wasn’t resting as well as I could is because of a belief I had. Because my pattern in the past had been pushing myself, overdoing and achieving to prove my worth, I believed that if I was not “doing” then I was being lazy.

So even though I was lying down resting because I know I needed to, I would still be thinking that I should be doing something. Taking time for myself and not checking off the to do list was not proving my value or worth. My value was attached to what I was doing instead of who I was being. That’s what I thought.

I wasn’t giving myself full on permission to rest. What I know now is that rest and rejuvenation are not a luxury. It’s not about working really really hard and then resting. It’s not about having to deserve it. They aren’t a luxury. They are a necessity.

It’s important to keep filling our tank and replenishing or we end up in resentment, burnout and not really giving a shit!

So even though I was resting my body, I hadn’t given myself full permission to and my mind kept thinking about what I should do instead. My body was resting but my mind wasn’t.

I was also not very present. If I was thinking about the past or worrying about the future, I was up in my head and not in the present moment. Presence is being in your body, being in tune with what is going on inside of you and allowing yourself to be quiet. That’s when we receive the messages from our innate body wisdom and we hear our soul and the divine speaking to us. It’s not when we are rushing around being busy.

True resting is giving yourself full permission to do so without judgement, being present in the moment allowing yourself to fully let go and resting both your body and your mind.

Half-assed rest is judging yourself for resting, thinking about what you should be doing instead and not being present in your body.

I notice that when I still engage in the habit of half-assed rest, I will be lying in bed resting my body but will still be on my phone. Nothing changes in how my body is feeling. There is a level of tension still in my body.

When I put my phone down, allow my mind to rest and just breathe, my body relaxes at a whole other level and I receive the rejuvenation deeply. If my mind is engaged, I’m not fully relaxing into my body.

Rest and multitasking do not mesh!

The benefits of giving yourself full permission to rest with presence are feeling more grounded, more connected, more centred, more peaceful and relaxed, more open to receive and your in your heart.

I don’t feel that with half-assed rest.

The invitation is to look at how you are resting. Are you getting half-assed rest? Maybe you aren’t resting at all. Without judging yourself, what small changes can you make so that you can receive rest that rejuvenates you deeply and fills your tank?

Much love,

Glenda

An Energetic Clearing With Light Language for Co-dependence

Have you ever felt the need to be needed by someone? I have and I wasn’t aware of it for such a long time. To be needed made me feel significant and wanted, like I mattered and was important.

Now I feel that way just as I am, without someone needing me although I do have my moments where my ego wants to be recognized and validated because I am human after all.

There is such a sense of freedom though when I am good within myself regardless of my environment. I feel like the sovereign being that I am instead of relying on validation from another person.

Watch the video below as Arica X Dale and I engage in an energetic clearing of the pattern of co-dependence with a light language transmission to help activate it at a cellular level. You may not even be aware of whether you have this co-dependence pattern until you hear some real life examples.

Freedom from within awaits you!

Much love,

Glenda

Where Do We Find Joy?

Does joy seem elusive to you sometimes? I know it has for me.

I remember 4 years ago when I realized that I had been pushing my way through life, checking off the boxes, moving from one achievement to the next hoping that all I wanted to feel, including joy, would show up with the next “success”. If only I could cross that elusive finish line…

Ya, there is no finish line to cross. It was definitely “I’ll be happy when…” syndrome.

What I realize now is that joy was always available to me but because I was living up in my head, trying to figure everything out and get it right, I was disconnected from my body and my emotions.

And when someone is in their head a lot, they are typically trying to avoid hurts from the past or worrying about the future.

Joy does not live in your head. It lives in your body.

So how the heck do we access that joy?

One way is presence, being in the present moment. You can use your 5 senses to help you be aware of where you are at right now.

What are you hearing, seeing, tasting, smelling and feeling? Becoming aware of these senses helps you be in your body, in a feeling state vs thinking and it brings you to this moment now.

When I was in my hyper-doing state, I was oblivious to how my body was feeling because I was so up in my head.

To be clear, I am not advocating that we don’t do anything. What I am supporting is taking some time to check in with yourself throughout the day. Where are you at? How are you feeling? Are you running on autopilot or are you present? How are you being as you are doing?

When I began disentangling myself from my proactive pattern of serial achieving and doing doing doing, I was advised to do what I love, do what makes me feel good.

I didn’t have a flipping clue!!!! What do you mean what feels good, what brings me joy? What do I love other than people and helping them????? Seriously. It was a tough question for me to answer. I had spent so much time working at being “better” that I had lost touch with what brought me joy.

And I know I’m not alone as a lot of my clients also struggle with this.

Joy does not exist in our protective patterns. It is experienced through being the truth of who we are instead of who we believe we need to be in order to stay safe, accepted, wanted and loved.

Our brains are also wired to take in the negative more than the positive as a form of safety. Dr. Rick Hanson, a psychologist, says in his book, Hardwiring Happiness, that the brain is like velcro to negative thoughts and is like teflon to positive ones, slips right off.

And we’ve all experienced when we can be given 9 positive accolades but it’s the one negative criticism that we hold onto.

Well shit! Are we doomed then?

Nope. There’s this thing called neuroplasticity where we can change our brains, rewire them.

One of the ways he suggested is that when a positive experience is occurring, take at least 20 seconds to really take it in, to really feel it. The more often we do this, the more the brain will rewire and our focus will be more on looking for the positive.

This relates to being in the present moment. When you are taking a shower, are you rushing through it or are you present to the water falling on your skin, the feel of your fingers massaging your scalp, the scent of the soap and shampoo?

When you are eating a meal, are you present to the taste and texture of the food or are you wolfing down on the run trying to get to the next activity?

When you are having a conversation with a loved one, are your present with them, wanting to receive and understand what they are saying or are you up in your head trying to figure out what to make for dinner?

When you are walking in the woods, are you allowing yourself to be activated by the trees, feeling the peace and the aliveness in your cells and taking that into the rest of your day or are you focused on getting your walk in quickly and then going right back to the chaos that you were trying to take a break from?

The joy resides in these little moments of presence, of being in our bodies and feeling the gifts that our senses give to us.

It is such a great place to start. And then from there, we can go beyond our human senses and connect with the divine energy of GUS (God/Universe/Source) that is in us, all around us, that is us. That bring me so much joy and is part of my daily practice. But that is for another day…

On a walk with my hubby, Tom, this past weekend, I was sharing with him a question that I was curious about because I wanted to hear his opinion.

The question was “how do I stop the pattern of trying to control and push and try to get somewhere and what do I do instead?”

In all his wisdom (Yes my hubby is a very wise man!), he said “Enjoy the moment and if you aren’t enjoying it, find a way to”.

And to take it a step further for me, it is to stop being in my head trying to figure shit out, drop down into my body, be in my heart, be in the present moment and allow myself to be given to.

It is there that I find my friend Joy.

Much love,

Glenda

The Perfect Storm of Burnout

Do you go nutso with making changes once the new year hits? I did and it resulted in, well…the perfect storm of burnout! So I have spent the past couple of months in recovery mode.

In the video, discover some forms of stress you may not have considered, what led to my burnout, what I have learned and how I am recovering. Knowing different forms of stress can help you avoid experiencing burnout and help you feel how you want to feel instead.

Much love,

Glenda