Shame. It’s pervasive. It’s in the collective and is coming up to leave.
I’ve been dancing with this emotion myself the last couple of weeks.
Shame is not something people like to talk about. Why? Because it is uncomfortable and doesn’t feel good.
We’ve all had moments when we’ve felt shame and we do our darndest not to be with it.
Shame is the densest, lowest vibrational frequency emotion there is. Carrying shame within us gets in the way of us being able to feel joy to the extent that we are capable of.
While guilt is about “I did something bad”, shame is “I am bad”. It is very linked to believing that you aren’t enough, that something is inherently wrong with you.
We have all been shamed and we have been the ones doing the shaming. It is a learned behaviour, one that we learned as kids.
Parents, teachers, employers etc. have used shaming for years as a way to get someone to behave the way they want them to. We do it unconsciously. It is what we have learned. It is an egoic protective mechanism to keep us feeling in control and safe.
Talking about and shining a light on shame brings it into our awareness so that we have choice. We have choice about what we do when we feel shame.
Last week, shame was surfacing for me big time. There were places I knew I was carrying shame and places that I had no idea shame existed.
It was coming up to leave. I let myself be with it, let myself feel it, as uncomfortable as it was.
And instead of letting that emotion take me out, believing that there was something wrong with me, I forgave myself each time it surfaced and loved myself instead.
I loved myself at all ages from being a little girl up to now. All those times I blamed myself for not “getting it right”. All those times I blamed or shamed someone else. I forgave it all and felt love and compassion for myself. Instead of believing that there is something wrong with me, I remembered the truth that I am a whole and complete being. We all are.
I have come out the other side and I feel different. I feel lighter and that voice that beats myself up is not speaking right now.
There is no need to shame anyone, ever. It is time that we un-learn shaming and replace it with letting love win instead.
It is time. New, higher vibrational frequencies are coming through to this planet right now. We are being upgraded which means that the low vibrational emotions that we are carrying are coming into our awareness, hence the shame surfacing.
If we allow ourselves to feel them, let them move through us and don’t engage with them, they will leave us, expanding our capacity to be with more of the higher frequency emotions such as joy, love and gratitude.
Let’s bring shame into our awareness so we can choose love instead. It is the way forward for humanity. Our children deserve that. We all do. ❤