Are you choosing fully?

Fully choose.

As my mentor, Jennifer Hough, says, there are no mistakes, only redirects.

100% commitment is Heaven. 99% is Hell.

Being 100% committed means that you don’t hum and haw about doing something. You just do it without all the questioning.

That 1% is doubt, constantly second guessing yourself. It’s the voice yipping at you to not get it “wrong”. I feel agitated and frenzied just writing it.

It also acts as a potential escape route if things get tough. That’s a good thing, right?


Struggle and suffering is having one foot on either side of the fence.

Choose and then let go of the past and knowing if this is “right” or not.

The magic lies in the not knowing.

Having played the gotta get it right game most of my life, I know this one really well. And well, not being fully in really sucks.

I also know being afraid of choosing and being disappointed, being afraid of being judged or hurt. So I get the hesitation and the procrastination. But in the end, not choosing fully is hurting myself.

Choose with discernment. Listen to your gut. Choose what your heart desires, not the shoulds and have tos.

Be fully in even though all the steps ahead aren’t clear and you may not know the way. The way will reveal itself.

And yes, this something I have to remind myself of often.

Jump and the net will appear.

Scary? You bet.

Worth it? Absolutely.

Much love,


What is Self-Abandonment?

Here’s what self-abandonment is for me.

Abandoning myself is when I am abandoning my true nature. It is when I don’t listen to or trust my own knowing, intuition, body, heart.

It is when I make choices motivated by my limiting thoughts and fears instead of making choices that are aligned with what is true for me.

When I perceive being abandoned in my outer world, I look within and am curious about how I am abandoning myself and then choose differently.

Instead of reacting to the perceived abandonment that is showing up in my life and being taken out by it, I see that it is an invitation instead to get quiet, go within and hear what my soul knows and what it is asking from me.

That’s the practice. That’s how I change the pattern.

The abandonment is coming up to leave so I try not to engage with it. I get out of its way and let it leave.

At the root of abandonment is the belief that you are not enough. And when we believe that, we don’t listen to ourselves because the answer must be outside of us. Right?

Nope. Not true.

So abandonment presenting is also an invitation to give myself love and compassion because that little child version of me is believing that she is not enough and is hurting.

Loving ourselves enough to listen to our own knowing is the way.

The answers are there.

Much love,