What does love have to do with longevity?



This past weekend, I turned 50. The big 5-0. A half century.

I’ll admit I got a little caught up in the hype that society puts on turning 50.

My eldest daughter, Sophia, even said “Mom, I want to do even more things together. You know, while you still can.”

Society tells us that it is all downhill from here. Your body will start falling apart if it hasn’t already. It’s quite the belief system.

And then there’s my little one, Julianna, who said “I am sad that you’re turning 50 Mom. I don’t want you to die in 50 years!”

I kinda like her perspective, don’t you?

Here’s the thing. Age is what you believe it to be. To me, it really is just a number. It’s not a reflection of where you are in life. Some people are grandparents at 50 whereas others, like myself, still have kids in elementary school.

Some people have grey hair in their 30s whereas I only have a few at 50.

We get to choose our perspective about age and ageing.

My dad turns 78 this January. He continues to ride his road bike every summer and despite having “slowed down” (his words), he managed to get his 1000 miles in before he had to put his bike away.

Seriously, that is 1000 miles more than I rode!

He is not letting his age define what he can and can’t do.

Years ago, I was at a talk by Gregg Braden. He is a scientist and was fascinated by people who live to be over 100 years old. He travelled the world and interviewed many of them, asking them what they believed was the “secret” to their longevity. They all said that it was the love in their hearts, be it love for their family or love for humanity in general.

The human heart is actually built to last 120 years. Really. Have that be your belief instead of life is downhill after 50 because what you believe, you conceive.

So why do so many people die much earlier? We are buying into society’s perspective and we are dying of broken hearts.

What is breaking our hearts, is not allowing ourselves to be with and feel our emotions. Not opening our hearts for fear of getting hurt. Keeping walls up to protect ourselves.

Emotions are meant to move. They are energies in motion. But we often don’t let ourselves feel them because they are uncomfortable and we judge them and ourselves. We think it isn’t safe to feel.

Or we feel them but keep them from moving through us because we keep holding onto them, making up a story about them, making them mean something that isn’t even true.

The problem is that these emotions stay stuck and stagnant in our bodies and cause dysfunction and disease.

Loving requires an open heart. Giving and receiving requires and open heart. And yes, we may open ourselves up to being hurt but we also open ourselves up to giving and receiving even more love.

I really believe that is what we are here to do and giving/receiving even more love is required for humanity to shift and change. It’s required for humanity to continue to exist.

So whether you are looking at it from a personal perspective about your own health and well being or from a more global perspective about shifting humanity, it is so important that we take down the walls, open our hearts and allow ourselves to feel.

I get that it may not feel safe and you may not know how to do that, especially if you were taught that it is bad to express your emotions. I didn’t know. I didn’t even know that I had walls up. But I’ve learned what to do and now I help others do the same in a safe space with kindness and compassion.

If this resonates with you and you are desiring to open your heart even more, to live a longer and richer life, find someone like myself or someone else who can help you.

It’s important. It is necessary and it will allow you to truly live the rest of your life, however long it may be, instead of trying to survive it.

Stepping Into Your Greatness


When I realized the gift that I am


Did you know that there is a reason you are here on this planet?

Often people refer to this as your purpose and then spend so much time in search of that purpose.

I did, for sure.

And then I realized that my purpose and your purpose is to be the gift that we are, to be all of the truth of who we really are.

Then from that place, we get to do some really cool shit.

The crazy thing is that you have always been the gift that you are, you just didn’t realize it.

What the heck am I talking about when I say the gift that you are?

YOU, in your uniqueness, is the gift.

You have a unique Essence, skills and character traits that are like no other.

The gift that you are is different from the gift that I am.

I remember the moment when I realized I was a gift. I was sitting around a table with 13 other souls on retreat with Jennifer Hough and the Wide Awakening.

Everyone around that table saw the gift that I am. It took an immense amount of effort to get me to see it.

Why? Because I didn’t believe that the gift that I was was very special.

I have a huge heart and an immense capacity to love. I feel A LOT which allows me to love the way I do.

I thought everybody loves the way I do because it comes so naturally to me. I didn’t think it was a thing and therefore not very special.

So when I asked “doesn’t everyone love like I do?” the response I received was a resounding “NO!!!!!!”

This literally has changed my life. It has allowed me to relax into my beingness and stop trying to prove that I am enough. I am already the gift.

Just being me is enough. Period. And it’s what I am here to be and so are you.

I know that when shit is going sideways, I am not in my heart or being the love that I am. I am back listening to my Ego instead of my Truth and believing in my limitedness.

Talk about great feedback!

So back to the gift you are.

If you don’t know what your uniqueness is, start by having a look at what comes to you so easily that you don’t even think it is a thing. What do others compliment you on? What could you do all day, every day even if you didn’t get paid for it? What lights you up and feels amazeballs?

Start asking yourself these questions and also ask GUS (God/Universe/Source) to show you the gift that you are.

If you do know the gift that you are, are you being it fully or are you guarding yourself in some way?

I just had the realization this week that I am guarding myself from being all of me. Why? Because being all of me is kinda out there and I know that there are some who are going to think I am some kind of freak.

But I also know that not being that fully is hurting me. It’s literally showing up as pain, tension and dysfunction in my body. It’s blocking my capacity to give and receive. It’s blocking abundance. It’s limiting the magic that is possible. And if Glenda the Good Witch is saying it, it’s got to be true:)

I’m being shown how to be all of my galactic witchy self. I am being shown how to bring the love that I know to be possible in other dimensions through to this 3D one.

I’m being shown, one step at a time.

Are you ready to embrace your greatness? If you don’t, your soul will speak to you through body pain, tension, dysfunction and disease, telling you that you are not in alignment with your Truth.

If you do, It will change your life and allow abundance to flow even more. When you are aligned with the truth of who you are, that’s what happens.

Do you feel like you are meant for more? Listen to that feeling. It’s telling you that you are. And the way is being the gift that you are.

It’s time. The world needs you.

If you’re ready and you want guidance in being your true self, you don’t have to do it alone. Assisting people being their true selves in my jam. It is part of the gift that I am. Contact me at glenda@glendalane.ca and let’s chat.

Much love,